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The Real Cost of Ignoring Your Intuition: A Real Story of Self-trust, Detachment and Overflow

Have you ever had that full-body sacral response that you just cannot ignore? That visceral knowing that pulses through your entire being, demanding your attention? And then, have you let other people's logic, their opinions, or their scarcity-driven mindsets talk you out of it?

Last year, I had the clearest response that it was time to sell my first home. My body knew. My energy knew. But I didn't do it. I let noise, fear, and well-meaning advice override the frequency of my own knowing.

This year, I trusted myself. And last Saturday, we auctioned that property with no plan for what comes next. No investment strategy mapped out. No logical certainty. Just a deep sense of self-trust pulsing through my body, telling me this was right.

The results were extraordinary. But even more than the financial outcome, what mattered most was this: I finally honoured the relationship I have with my own intuition. I stopped breaking trust with myself.

If you've ever questioned your intuition, second-guessed your timing, or felt terrified to let go of what feels safe, this is for you. Because every time you ignore your inner yes, it costs you something far more valuable than money or opportunity. It costs you your relationship with self-trust.

What Self-Trust Actually Looks Like (And No, It's Not All Calm and Peaceful)

Let me tell you something that might surprise you: self-trust doesn't always feel peaceful. It doesn't arrive with guarantees or neat spreadsheets proving you've made the right choice.

Real self-trust looks like this: standing in a room during an auction, heart racing, palms sweating, watching five registered bidders compete for your property. It looks like feeling your nervous system light up while simultaneously experiencing this deep, unshakeable sense of peace underneath the adrenaline.

That contradiction? That's what emotional resilience for entrepreneurs actually feels like in real time. Your nervous system is activated because you're doing something that matters. But beneath that surface activation, there's a frequency of rightness that you cannot deny.

When I was 21 years old, I bought that house. I had a $40,000 a year job and genuinely had no idea how I was going to make the mortgage repayments. But I felt the yes in my body. I slept on it. And then I moved.

I trusted my sacral response before I even knew that's what it was called. I trusted my frequency before I had the language for it. And here's what I've learned across nearly two decades of entrepreneurship: every single time I have made a decision from that place of body-led knowing, without knowing what was on the other side, everything has worked out.

Not just worked out. Transformed.

The Universal Ripple Effect of One Trusted Decision

Let me show you what happens when you honour one moment of self-trust.

When I was 16, I left school two weeks before my year 11 exams. The judgment was intense. The fear-based projections from others were relentless. But I trusted what I was doing in my body.

If I hadn't taken that leap, I wouldn't have started working full-time at the bistro I was already part-time at. I wouldn't have met my partner of 21 years. I potentially wouldn't have had my children. I wouldn't be living in the home I'm in now. I wouldn't have built the business I have today.

One decision. One moment of body-led decision making. And an entire life unfolded from that frequency.

Think about it: when I was 14, I decided to write, choreograph, and produce a musical. I had the feeling. I wanted to do it. So I did it. We rehearsed for months and sold 200 tickets to perform it. I was 14 years old, and I trusted that knowing.

When I was 23, I left my long-term secure job to start a business. I didn't even know what that business was going to be yet. I just knew I wanted one. So I left, waited for the thing to drop in, and started.

If I hadn't had that event business and learned those brutal money mindset lessons, I wouldn't have fast-tracked my understanding of wealth, energy, and nervous system regulation the way I did.

This is what people don't tell you about intuitive business coaching: it's not about having all the answers before you move. It's about developing such a deep relationship with your own frequency that you can move through uncertainty without abandoning yourself.

The Difference Between Logical Certainty and Energetic Certainty

Here's what I've learned: there is a profound difference between logical certainty and energetic certainty.

Logical certainty demands proof. It wants guarantees. It needs to see the whole staircase before taking the first step. It asks questions like: "What's your investment plan?" "Where will you put that money?" "What if the market crashes?" "What if you're wrong?"

Energetic certainty whispers differently. It says: "This is right. I don't know how. I don't know what comes next. But my body knows this is aligned."

Last year, when people told me not to sell my house without an investment plan, they were speaking from logical certainty. And because I hadn't yet learned to distinguish between these two types of knowing, I doubted myself. I overrode my body. I created static in my frequency.

The result? A year of anxiety. Hours and hours of overthinking a decision I'd already made in my body. Procrastination masquerading as wisdom. Confusion where there should have been clarity.

Fear comes disguised as logic. But it's still fear.

And every time I ignored that inner knowing, I wasn't just postponing a property sale. I was breaking trust with the most important relationship I have: the one with myself.

How Ignoring Your Intuition Erodes Self-Trust

Let me be really honest with you about what happened during that year of doubt.

I knew in my body it was time to sell. But the noise was loud. The projections were constant. "Don't do it if you don't have a plan." "The economy is uncertain." "What if you regret it?" "You're making an emotional decision."

So I waited. And while I waited, something insidious happened: I started to doubt whether I could trust myself at all.

Because here's what most people don't understand about subconscious reprogramming techniques and nervous system regulation for entrepreneurs: every time you override your body's knowing, you send your nervous system a message that says, "Your signals aren't trustworthy. External validation matters more than your internal compass."

This is how emotional resilience for entrepreneurs gets eroded. Not through one big traumatic event, but through a thousand small moments of self-abandonment. A thousand times you chose someone else's fear over your own knowing.

I started questioning everything. Not just about the house, but about my business decisions. My pricing. My visibility. My worthiness to lead at the level I was being called to.

When you're out of alignment with yourself in one area, it bleeds into everything. Your frequency shifts. Your content doesn't land the same way. Your sales conversations feel forced. Your nervous system stays in a state of low-grade anxiety because some part of you knows you're living out of integrity with your own truth.

This is what I mean when I say: you're not stuck, you're still scaling from survival. You can't build from overflow when you're constantly overriding the wisdom of your own body.

The Auction: What Happened When I Finally Trusted Myself

Fast forward to this year. The knowing returned. Actually, it had never left. I'd just finally decided to listen to it.

I made the decision to sell. No investment plan. No certainty about what comes next. Just a deep sense that this chapter needed to close so another could begin.

The auction campaign was quick. Two and a half weeks. We had five registered bidders. And as I sat in that room, hiding away, listening through the window, watching the process unfold, something profound happened.

The bidding stalled below reserve. The agent came in to discuss strategy. They were going to pass it in to see if that would reignite competition. And just as they stepped out to do that, a late bidder arrived to register.

Within five minutes, everything shifted. The bidding went from stalled to on the market to sold. I was doing these weird little air punches, completely lit up with adrenaline and simultaneously grounded in this deep sense of peace.

And that's how I knew. That's always how I know.

When your nervous system is activated but there's peace underneath, you're in alignment. When your nervous system is activated and there's only chaos underneath, you're forcing something that isn't yours to force.

Someone asked me afterwards, "Weren't you terrified you were making the wrong choice?" And I realized: no. Because I'd finally learned the difference between fear and excitement, between anxiety and activation, between control and trust.

This is what holistic business strategy teaches you: your body has been giving you feedback this entire time. You've just been taught to ignore it in favour of external metrics, other people's opinions, and strategies that were never designed for your unique nervous system.

The Emotional Attachment We Don't Talk About

Here's something I haven't shared yet: one of the reasons I doubted myself last year was because I was still emotionally attached to that house in a way I didn't fully recognize.

I bought it when I was 21. My daughter Kiya was born there. My little dog Cleo, who passed away 12 months ago, lived her entire life in that home. There were memories woven into every room, every corner, every floorboard.

And somewhere in my subconscious, I believed that selling the house meant abandoning those memories. That detaching from the property meant detaching from the experiences, the people, the version of myself who had lived there.

This is where shadow work for business growth becomes essential. Because the same emotional patterns that keep us clinging to properties, relationships, or identities we've outgrown are the exact same patterns that keep us stuck in our businesses.

How many of you are holding onto:

• Offers that no longer light you up because you're afraid of starting over?

• Pricing structures that undervalue you because you're attached to being accessible?

• Business models that exhaust you because you're scared of what your identity becomes if you let them go?

• Client relationships that drain you because you're attached to being needed?

The act of detachment is how you open space for overflow.

Over the last 12 months, I've been practicing detachment from business outcomes, from money, from possessions, from needing things to look a certain way. Not from a place of not caring, but from a place of trusting that whatever is meant for me will find me when I'm in the right frequency to receive it.

And here's what I've learned: detachment doesn't mean you don't feel deeply. It means you don't let your worth, your identity, or your peace depend on external outcomes.

What Self-Trust Requires From You

So let me ask you: what does your yes actually feel like in your body?

Not what you think it should feel like. Not what it looks like for someone else. But what does YOUR sacral response, YOUR intuitive hit, YOUR frequency of knowing actually feel like for you?

Do you know? Have you spent time learning that language?

Because authentic leadership for entrepreneurs begins here. Not with strategy. Not with systems. Not with scaling before you know who you are and what your body is trying to tell you.

Self-trust requires:

1. Learning your body's yes and no signals Your sacral response, your gut instinct, your intuitive hits - they have a specific feeling in YOUR body. For me, it's a full-body knowing. An expansion in my chest. A sense of rightness that doesn't need logic to validate it. What is it for you?

2. Gathering evidence of times you trusted yourself and it worked Your brain needs proof that trusting yourself is safe. Start collecting evidence. When was your first big leap? The one that logic said no to but your gut said yes? What happened when you listened?

3. Recognizing when you're in an energetic yes versus performing certainty There's a difference between confidence and control. Between surrender and resignation. Between trusting the process and bypassing your discomfort. Learn to feel the difference.

4. Creating boundaries around other people's projections I now literally say to people: "Do not talk logic to me. I don't know how this is going to work out, and it's fine." You don't owe anyone an explanation for following your own frequency. Their fear is not your compass.

5. Being willing to not know what comes next This is the hardest part for most of us. We want the guarantee before we leap. But energetic alignment in business means being so anchored in who you are that you can move through uncertainty without losing yourself in it.

The Truth About Emotional Resilience and Nervous System Regulation

Here's what I want you to understand about emotional resilience for entrepreneurs and nervous system regulation: it's not about never feeling activated. It's about being able to hold activation and peace simultaneously.

During that auction, my nervous system was absolutely lit. Heart racing. Adrenaline pumping. Completely present and alert. But underneath that activation was this deep well of calm. This knowing that regardless of the outcome, I had honoured myself by getting to this point.

That's what aligned visibility strategies actually look like. That's what it means to build a business that doesn't cost you yourself.

You don't get there by avoiding discomfort. You don't get there by waiting until you feel ready. You get there by practicing the art of trusting yourself in small moments so that when the big moments come, your nervous system recognises the frequency of aligned action.

This is why I use modalities like EFT tapping for business success, clinical hypnotherapy, and somatic practices in my work. Because you cannot think your way into self-trust. You have to feel your way there. You have to rewire the subconscious patterns that tell you external validation is safer than internal knowing.

Why Detachment Is the Doorway to Overflow

Let's talk about detachment for a moment, because this is where everything I've been teaching you converges.

Detachment is not the same as not caring. Detachment is caring deeply while releasing your grip on how it has to look, when it has to happen, or what it has to mean about you.

When I finally emotionally detached from that house, from the outcome of the auction, from needing it to validate that I'd made the right choice - that's when everything flowed.

The same is true in your business. When you detach from:

• Needing every launch to be perfect

• Requiring every post to go viral

• Demanding every client say yes

• Controlling exactly how your growth unfolds

You create space for the energetics of pricing, for overflow, for opportunities you couldn't have orchestrated with control alone.

This is what I teach in my programs. Whether you're in the Ascension Academy learning to embody the identity of the woman who confidently charges for transformation, or you're in the Transcendence Mastermind learning to scale to consistent five-figure months without sacrificing yourself - it all comes back to this: your business can't outgrow the version of you still running it.

Your Relationship With Self-Trust: Where Are You?

So let me ask you to reflect:

What is your relationship with self-trust right now?

Are you in or out of relationship with it? Because here's what I've noticed: most of us are in relationship with self-trust in some areas and completely out of relationship with it in others.

For years, I had full trust in my business decisions but not in my life decisions. I could trust myself to build a six-figure business from scratch, but I couldn't trust myself to sell a house without a five-year investment plan.

Where are you in full trust? Where are you still looking for external validation? Where are you overriding your body's wisdom because someone else's fear feels louder than your own knowing?

Self-trust is a relationship. And like any relationship, it requires:

• Consistent communication (learning to listen to your body's signals)

• Following through (taking action when your intuition speaks)

• Repair work (rebuilding trust when you've abandoned yourself)

• Boundaries (protecting your knowing from other people's projections)

The woman who can hold six-figure success, consistent visibility, and purposeful leadership through adversity isn't someone who never doubts herself. She's someone who has learned to trust herself more than she trusts the doubt.

What Comes Next: Building From Self-Trust

Here's what I know now, standing on the other side of that auction:

Every time I've trusted my body before my brain, life and universe have met me mid-air. Every time I've tried to logic my way through, I've ended up in scarcity.

I don't know what's coming next. I don't have an investment plan yet. And I am completely at peace with that, because I've learned that the not-knowing is where the magic lives.

When you try to control everything, you can only create what you can currently imagine. When you trust yourself and release control, you open up to possibilities that exceed what your current identity could have conceived.

This is what scaling your business with ease actually means. Not that it's easy. Not that you won't feel activated. But that you're building from a foundation of self-trust rather than self-abandonment. You're regulating before you rise. You're becoming the woman who can hold more, not just achieving more from a dysregulated state.

If this resonates with you, if you're ready to stop breaking trust with yourself and start building a business that honours your frequency, your nervous system, and your deep knowing - this is the work we do together.

Because you don't need another strategy. You need emotional safety. You need someone who can hold the mirror as you become the woman who trusts herself fully. You need transformational coaching for soulful women that goes deeper than tactics and teaches you how to build from the frequency of overflow, not survival.

The Invitation

So here's what I want you to do:

Think about the last time you had a full-body yes that you ignored. What happened? What did it cost you? Not just in opportunity, but in your relationship with yourself?

And then ask: what would become possible if you started honouring those moments instead of overriding them?

What if the version of you that sold a house at 21 with no plan, that wrote a musical at 14, that left school at 16, that started a business at 23 - what if she's been waiting for you to remember that she's still inside you?

She never left. You just stopped listening.

It's time to come back to her. To that frequency of knowing. To that willingness to leap. To that trust that says: I don't know what's coming, but I know I can handle it.

Because here's the truth: you're not broken, you're in rebirth. And the breakdown you're experiencing right now? It's not evidence that you're failing. It's your body's way of saying: the version of you that got you here isn't the one meant to take you there.

Trust that. Trust yourself. And watch what unfolds.

Ready to rebuild your relationship with self-trust and create a business that honours your frequency? DM me on Instagram or reply to tell me: what's one decision you've been avoiding because you're waiting for logical certainty instead of trusting your energetic knowing?

Your body already knows the answer. It's time to listen.

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Your business is already calling, it's time to meet it in your full frequency.